Modern dating advice from a dating agency in Ukraine: How to be a modern man

Natalie B. is a dating coach from a dating agency in Ukraine. Today she has kindly and generously shared with us some insights into how to be a modern man that is attractive and high-value. 

• Start from becoming a high-value man.

One key indicator of a high-value man is his network which includes his professional network and his social circle – this is third-party evidence which can prove that he is a high-value guy. 

What is third-party evidence? Let’s have a look at the following examples:

1. Before you buy something from Amazon, you read other customers’ reviews.
2. When you are looking for love, you tend to trust someone who is introduced to you by your friend or family member. (Usually, you don’t trust a complete stranger that you meet in the street.)

These are third-party evidence.

Third-party evidence is hard to fake, so it’s very powerful.

When I was a salesperson in a department store, I used third-party evidence in sales very often.

Examples:

ME: “Premier of Victoria wears this brand.”

ME: “The talk show host on TV was wearing this jacket the other day.”

ME: “Darren Hayes from Savage Garden was wearing this leather jacket on TV.”

ME: “Have you see XYZ TV show? Characters on that TV show wear this brand.” 

ME: “James Bond wears polo shirts without buttons in movies.”

All of the above-mentioned statements are facts – these are real. The reason I’m very convincing is because I observe useful details in daily life carefully and I told the customers my observation in detail. Third-party evidence was usually used during positive reinforcement in front of the mirror in the department store!

I only used one piece of third-party evidence each time because I didn’t want to sound pushy. I wouldn’t say “Premier of Victoria wears this brand, and the talk show host on TV wears this brand, too!” as one piece of third-party evidence is much more memorable than multiple pieces of third-party evidence.

Now you’ve understood that if you have a powerful network, someone will introduce high-value women to you, so you will have options – you can choose the best candidate! Also, your mutual friend will be the very powerful third-party evidence that can prove you are not a crazy guy!

• Another way to be a high-value guy:

A high-value man prioritizes his career. Therefore, you might need to attend professional development conferences or seminars regularly so that you can learn new things and improve your career. You’d better write those seminars and conferences down in your diary (if something isn’t even scheduled, it’s not real).

In addition, when you go to professional development workshops, you will surely meet a large number of like-minded people in this profession. Thus, it’s a highly effective way to build a relevant and powerful network organically. Remember that your net worth is oftentimes determined by your network. Let me explain.

Lots of people say it’s all about whom you know. However, I’d like to argue that it’s about who knows you. You know Kevin, the CEO of ABC company. Apparently, you can’t ask him to give you a job when you don’t have one. Let’s look at a different scenario: Sean (the president of XYZ collective) knows you. He has a position in XYZ collective and currently he is looking for someone to work for that organization. As he knows you, it’s quite likely for him to think about you & employ you!

When you have a career that you genuinely love, you feel more confident as well.

• High-value men are attractive men.

According to Natalie B. (the consultant from a dating agency in Ukraine), high-value men are more attractive because when someone’s objective value is high, this person’s perceived value can be even higher as long as this guy knows how to communicate with women effectively.

In terms of communication skills, Natalie highly recommends Leil Lowndes’s books such as How to Talk to Anyone and How to Make Anyone Like You.

“High-value men are successful in their love lives.”