How to confidently join an online dating site after 40

When you were younger, you were surrounded by eligible single women. Perhaps you
went to university with young women who were looking for love. Maybe most of your
co-workers were young and single when you were in your 20s. However, when you
are in your 30s or 40s, most of your friends are probably married, so they don’t go
out with you very often anymore. If you are single and looking for a partner in your
40s or 50s, chances are it’s not very easy because most people that you do business
with or the majority of people that you meet while climbing the corporate ladder
these days aren’t young and attractive women. Therefore, right now you have to put
more effort into your dating life. That’s why online dating has become necessary and
helpful.

Online dating is the real fast-track to success in love.

In this day and age, the internet has revolutionized the way people meet each other.
Almost everyone that I know has found a job because they saw a job ad on the
Internet. Besides, most single people that are looking for relationships are on dating
websites already.
Indeed, online dating is simple and straightforward because members on a dating
site already know why you are on the dating website. It’s direct and easy.

Although internet dating is the primary way for single people to meet each other
nowadays, you shouldn’t ignore offline dating either because your activities offline is
a key part of life as well. Hence, if you still have some single friends, just go out more frequently with them for social activities. At least this can help you to improve your
social skills. Alternatively, you can go to some events or join a club where like-
minded people meet each other, e.g., a business conference, a networking event, a
sports club, etc. What’s more, you would be well-advised to get out of the house more
and talk to people. If you tend to order Thai food for dinner, why not go to a Thai
restaurant where other people are around? I remember many years ago, I went to a
restaurant and asked the person near the bar to recommend the best things on the
menu – I ended up having dinner with that person by sharing the same table
together. We had a great time and we still keep in touch.

My best friend works from home 3 days a week and takes his laptop out to work in a
coffee shop 2 days a week. He says that’s a good way to meet more people as well.

When you have better social skills, you will feel more confident when it comes to
online dating, too, because eventually, you’ll have to meet the lady in person anyway.

As you get older, you actually have more value.

Interestingly, as you get older, your value increases because you have more life
experience, more worldliness and more wisdom. But maybe you are not around a lot of women for dating and relationships & your options are relatively limited as you get
older. That’s exactly why online dating is absolutely necessary now.

Let’s say you live near a university campus. It’s a bit awkward and weird if you
approach university students on campus. Nevertheless, if you meet them at a café
near the campus, that’s normal because the context is different. My mentor used to
call that ‘plausible proximity’. Having said that, if you find starting a conversation
with a woman at a café is quite challenging due to fear of rejection, online dating is a
much better way to meet eligible women naturally.

Please note that there are two types of mature men. The first type is the
sophisticated, experienced and cultured men. The second type is just the older men.
Obviously, you want to be the first type! So, please do not wear clothes that are
clearly out of fashion. Having said that, you would be ill-advised to dress like a high
school boy when you are 41. You need to dress like a successful and stylish man. Also,
please go to the gym and work on your fitness because you don’t want to look 60
when you are only 40. It’s better to look like a 30-year-old man when you are 40.

“If you are a mature guy dating a younger woman, you shouldn’t bring up the
age question first yourself. You’d better let her know you more first. Note that
Ukrainian women don’t mind age-gap dating because they are from the Eastern
European culture where age-gap couples are common. Research shows that age-gap
couples are oftentimes happier than similar-age couples because age-gap couples
tend to have better commitment and trust as well as less jealousy than similar-age
couples. Thus, if you are an older guy dating a younger lady, that’s not a problem!”