Practical Dating Advice For Men: Confidence Vs Entitlement

Confidence is attractive, but entitlement is a turn-off. The best dating advice for men is that knowing the difference can make all the difference. A confident man is secure in himself and respects others, while an entitled man expects things to go his way without effort.

There are many dating books teaching men how to build solid confidence, but when that is overdone, it can become a negative entitlement. Therefore, in this blog article, I’m going to explain why entitlement is ruining your results and how to have healthy confidence.

Dating advice for men: What is not confidence?

Confidence is about self-assurance, while arrogance comes from insecurity. A truly confident man listens, respects boundaries, and doesn’t feel the need to prove himself constantly. On the other hand, entitlement and arrogance push people away—no one enjoys being around someone who acts like they’re owed attention.

Some men believe that they should have XYZ just because they are here, but good results in dating and relationships aren’t anyone’s birthright.

If you haven’t offered any value yet, you aren’t entitled to anything from others because the Law of Reciprocation is true. You can only get what you give.

Clearly, assuming that you deserve positive results without any effort is not confidence.

What does negative entitlement look like?

Negative entitlement shows up when a man believes he deserves a woman’s time, affection, or attention just because he’s interested. This mindset can lead to frustration and resentment when things don’t go his way. True connection comes from mutual respect and effort, not from expecting rewards just for showing up.

Last year someone that has been reading my articles online met me in the street and asked me to follow him on Instagram. My response was, “But we don’t know each other yet and this is the first time for us to meet each other.” Then he was screaming and yelling at me for not following him on Instagram. Obviously, he was very entitled.

Another example is a date that I had a while ago. A guy asked me out for a date, so I was sitting in a restaurant with him for the dinner date. Because we ordered very salty and spicy chicken, we were drinking the orange juice from the bottle on the table. I only had one small glass of orange juice from the bottle, and he had 4 glasses of orange juice. So he finished drinking the juice in the bottle completely. He didn’t ask me if I wanted more orange juice or any water, although the spicy chicken was clearly too spicy and salty. Then he ordered a glass of wine without asking me if I would like a glass of wine as well. He was simply assuming that feminine ladies like me don’t drink wine.

Dating advice for men: what does the wrong type of entitlement do to relationships?

When entitlement replaces genuine connection, relationships suffer. Instead of building trust and attraction, an entitled mindset can make a partner feel pressured or unappreciated. Healthy relationships thrive on mutual effort and respect, not on the belief that one person is owed love or attention without reciprocation.

In reality, the wrong kind of entitlement makes it harder for people to have long-term relationships because a relationship can’t be a one-way street.

Remember: no one owes you anything. No matter how cool you are, in other people’s eyes you are only as cool as you have shown them. Never treat people as objects. People have feelings and emotions. Also, your relationship to them isn’t necessarily the same as their relationship to you. For example, Dan and Deb are colleagues. Dan has a crush on Deb. When Deb started to date Chris, Dan became very jealous. But Deb never had a crush on Dan, so Dan’s relationship to Deb is different from Deb’s relationship to Dan.

Look at the relationships between celebrities and their fans.

Celebrities may receive admiration and attention from fans, but that doesn’t mean they owe their fans anything in return. Similarly, in dating, attraction isn’t something that can be demanded. It has to be earned through genuine connection and mutual respect. Expecting special treatment just because you’re interested in someone is a sign of entitlement, not confidence.

If you are a fan of a celebrity, your relationship to this celebrity isn’t the same as the celebrity’s relationship with you. You probably don’t have an influence on the celebrity’s life, but the celebrity has an influence on your life.

So, here is my practical dating advice for men. Don’t assume a relationship when it doesn’t even exist. Please offer good value first. If you give other people what they want, you can have a life that you want. 😊

I sincerely hope that my dating advice for men has helped men become the better version of themselves. Confidence is key in dating, but entitlement can push connections away. Learn how to build genuine attraction and foster meaningful relationships with a Ukrainian woman with the right mindset. Start your journey today, join Simply Dating!