When you chat with Ukraine women, do you have a growth mindset?

There are many men who would like to chat with Ukraine women and start international relationships. Research shows that those who can succeed in internet dating usually have a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset.

• Do you have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset?

Somebody who doesn’t even believe they are able to learn new things has a fixed mindset, whilst somebody who believes they can learn and improve has a growth mindset. Please do not underestimate the power of your mindset.

I’m not a motivational speaker, and quite frankly, I don’t like motivational speakers who talk about mindset all day long. But here is the truth: your mindset actually matters.

What’s relevant today might become obsolete tomorrow. Two decades ago, dating advice was like this: When you meet a woman, you should make her want to impress you by saying things like, “You don’t have a good sense of humor”. But in today’s day and age, that strategy doesn’t work anymore because nowadays women start to think, “If you believe that I don’t have a good sense of humor, why do you want to see me?”

Therefore, these days you are not supposed to criticize women when there isn’t anything that should be criticized. Dating advice in this day and age has been updated, so you would be well-advised to upskill and learn something new! Note that lack of awareness is oftentimes more dangerous than lack of knowledge; thus, everyone must be aware of the power of the growth mindset while chatting with Ukraine women.

• How to cultivate a growth mindset:

The first way to develop a growth mindset is to read books on personal development.

Research shows that a growth-driven person usually reads a book per month. Therefore, if you are highly motivated, you may need to create a reading list which consists of 12 self-help books each year.

Please note that reading books isn’t about consumption. Many gurus tell you that they read a book per week / they listen to audio books at 3x speed when they are working out at the gym. Yet sadly, that’s consumption rather than learning.

Real learning isn’t about reading 365 books a year! Truthfully, real learning is about reading something and then carefully thinking about how you can implement the new idea that you’ve learned. Sometimes I read a page of a book and then stop & think for an hour: I look up new terminology on Wikipedia to fully understand the information and think about how to implement what I’ve just learned; I write notes in my notebook to expand the new idea in creative ways.

There are several books that I’ve read for at least 3 times; there are some books that I rarely open – they simply sit on the coffee table. Again, learning isn’t about consumption; it’s about implementation.

Before you chat with Ukraine women, have you read any books about dating and relationships or female psychology?

The second way to foster a growth mindset is to find a mentor. You can hire a dating coach if you are able to afford one. You may approach a seasoned dater who is willing to teach you something for free. You might have mentors that you have never met (but you can join their online courses).

As I see it, your mentor has to be somebody that is not too far away from where you are right now, which means your mentor needs to be someone that is merely a few steps ahead of you. So, it will be easier for you to imitate their behavior and get the results you want in a practical way.

The third way to have a growth mindset is to set realistic goals. You may have exciting and achievable goals in different areas of life. For example, you might want to set three goals that will be achieved in six months. Remember that setting goals which will be achieved in 10 years can’t change what’s going to happen next Wednesday. In contrast, setting goals that can be achieved within six months will surely change your behavior next Wednesday.

Now you have your goals, so it’s time to establish several rituals which will make achieving your goals inevitable – a ritual is a task that you must do every day so as to get closer and closer to the outcome that you desire. For instance, let’s say your goal is to find a partner in six months, your daily ritual should probably be chatting with Ukraine women online for one hour each day.

“Do you have a growth mindset in dating and relationships?”